Ana posted about the lack of understanding she sees in the young teens preparing for confirmation. It isn't a sacred event for them, because they don't understand what it really means. Here is what I wrote in response:
This, that you speak of, with the 8th grade girls, is what happens when people say, "Oh, you're xx years old now, it's time for..." - there is no sense of "I'm ready for what this really means about my life" when that happens.
That's why I'm so glad my parents encouraged my brothers and I to wait for our confirmation until we were sure we were ready for it. I was 17. Only my youngest brother was the "usual age" when he was confirmed, and he was, like the rest of us, sure it was the right time for him to do so.
To me, it's like rushing into marriage with someone you barely know, just because you're an adult and people expect you to be married already. Where is the real, deep, loving relationship that you absolutely *must* have with someone to whom you are joined in such a way? That's why I waited so long for my confirmation. I suspect that is why I am still waiting for marriage.
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